I’ve been getting a lot of messages on how to be a phone sex worker, how to get into it, how to start, ect, but they request I don’t post it, so I’m just going to keep getting the same questions over and over again. So heres a big ass post about it. I started in December 2012, so almost a year, but I still feel like I’m fairly new to it all. If you see a problem or anything feel free to correct me.  Also there is a shit ton of caps lock, cursing, grammar errors.

*THIS POST WILL BE CONSTANTLY UPDATED WITH QUESTIONS*

**FEEL FREE TO SEND ASKS, I PROMISE I’LL DO MY BEST TO HELP** 

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HOW TO GET STARTED 

Pick a site, do your research, ask other girls if they like working for the company. I use Niteflirt. They take 30% and theres a shit ton of glitches and bunch of girls on it, but I do fine on it.

Call Full Ten for phone sex on Niteflirt.com

A lot of sites require different things. Some require lan lines, some don’t. Niteflirt doesn’t, and I use my regular cell phone to take calls. I don’t use a seperate phone and the guys have no idea of my number don’t worry. Go through the other girls pages, see what they are offering and decide if this is for you. Can you talk dirty? Can you be instantly enthusiastic about talking about suckin’ some dudes balls? You *have* to be able to talk dirty. Assholes, balls, pussy, dicks, tits, wet panties, fuckin’ in all kinds of situations, cum. Literally you are walking into the mind of a man, everything, EVERYTHING, is covered in cum. Or are you a domme? Or more submissive? What is your niche? Or will you decide not to have a niche and just be all over. Which is something you can totally do. Lots of girls play sub, domme, and vanilla. 

HOW TO GET THAT FIRST CALL 

Don’t just put up some shitty photo of yourself talk about how sexy you are and then call it a day. That isn’t going to work. You need a decent listing first off. Look at the girls who do well. Usually their listings are on point. By listing I mean the page men look at before they decide to call you. I suggest making gifs, it brings you more ‘to life’. Clear photos, make sure there are no flaws, if your wearing something cheap, you will look cheap. Your body language and facial expressions will determine the kind of sense men get about you. Make sure your sending the right signals.  When your listing looks good, advertise. I go on collarme (posted in journals) and fetlife (phone sex forums) when I first started and thats how I started to build my regulars. It took me a day before I got my first call, it may take you longer or shorter. Everyone is different. 

DEALING WITH CALLERS 

I could write a fucking novel about this, but I’ll keep it short and to the point. 

VANILLA MEN

  • DO NOT EXCHANGE MORE THEN 3 E-MAILS, if they e-mail a lot they are looking for a free wank
  • LOTS OF GUYS LOVE NEWBIES! Make a good first impression
  • Be enthusiastic
  • REMEMBER YOUR BOUNDARIES! DON’T LET ANYONE PUSH YOU!! HE CAN GO CHOKE ON A DICK
  • It’s not just talking about what you would/are doing to them, its about how much you want too
  • Tell him he has a big dick, it seriously never hurts
  • A lot of guys, because of porn, love the idea of stretching a girl out, also ties into the whole… big dick thing
  • THEIR WILL BE ASSHOLES. You can hang up on them, fuck em’
  • It will get weird, if its too weird tell them, their usually cool with it but if their an asshole, hang up
  • DON’T TAKE THREATS! DON’T REACT! A lot of guys get off on invading your space and getting into fights. Just ignore them, hang up, or fuck it, leave the phone on say nothing and listen to him make an ass of himself while he pays you. He’s gonna give you a bad rating anyways.
  • A lot of guys are *super* shy about their sexuality, make jokes, be cool. They may or may not come out of their shell right away, just be comfortable, don’t force it, chit chat is awesome too, usually they call later on anyways. 
  • Regular conversations do happen. It’s not all sex, I’ve had months where it was barely any phone sex at all and just regular conversations for hours. 
  • THEY WILL GET OBSESSED WITH YOU… tell them to buy you something. 
  • The loneliness of some of these guys, can be deafening. 
  • Never give out any personal information, they will ask. 
  • If a guy says something like ‘I get paid _________, I’ll pay you then, can we just _________’ bullshit. Money always upfront. 
  • MONEY ALWAYS UPFRONT 
  • MONEY ALWAYS UPFRONT 
  • MONEY ALWAYS UPFRONT 

 

SUBMISSIVE MEN 

  •  NEVER assume that because he calls himself submissive he’s actually submissive. Usually their just lazy assholes who want to tell you what to do. They can go fuck themselves, by themselves. 
  • Always check in with your sub, I do the 1-10 method. How much pain are you in from 1- 10? ect. Usually they over exaggerate cause their bitches. You have to keep in mind their voice, you should know when you’ve pushed them too hard. 
  • DO WHATEVER THE FUCK YOU WANT. Seriously, that’s the whole point. If your assertive enough, you can get these motherfuckers to pay for you to take a nap, play video games, whatever. Their place is under you. These dudes ain’t shit. 
  • RESEARCH FETISHES. Theres a bunch of them. Advertise the ones you like, you’ll hook someone whose also into it. 
  • THEY LOVE IT. They want to think their being forced, or seduced into doing something humiliating but the truth is they fucking love it and they want too. They want to lick their cum off the floor and moan. They want to not be able to pay their rent this month. They want to beg, and be degraded and used. They need it. They need you. They need someone to tell them to do these things because their too chicken shit to do it themselves. Don’t let them make you think differently. 
  • If a man gets pushy, push back. If a child spoke back to you would put the child in its place, same with these men. They are baby adults, you have to discipline them.
  • If you cam… you will see a lot of shitty dildos. Motherfuckers do not wash themselves. 
  • Small dicks… small dicks everywhere. 

RISKS 

  • You may destroy your reputation
  • Men can get obsessed and take things too far (stalking, find your address, ect)
  • Pedofiles and rapists will call, if you can’t handle that, DON’T. 
  • Men get very vulgar ‘You stupid slut’ ‘I’m going to rape you and have you beg!’ ‘Cry for me like my dick is stretching out that tight pussy. CRY LOUD!’ ‘Beg for dick you fucking whore.’ You can hang up, or stay, it’s your choice, but you will hear something along these lines. 
  • You will be tied to your phone during the hours you work, it makes having a social life a bit difficult if this is your main gig. 
  • YOU WILL BE A SEX WORKER. YOU WILL BE LABELED A WHORE. A SLUT. YOU WILL LOSE YOUR IDENTITY AS A PERSON. If a caller becomes a stalker and does something horrible to you. It doesn’t matter. They will say you did this to yourself. No one will care. 
  • You will never see men in the same way again. A lot of these men have very twisted fantasies, a lot of these men like to hurt women. A lot of these men don’t understand how sex works. Yes, a lot of callers are super cool, but there are some that will make your skin crawl. 
  • If you are POC, shit gets racist, super fast. 
  • If you’re hiding it from your friends and family you may be burning bridges with them if they don’t approve. 
  • Men can find you. They may record your conversations. You have to be okay with this. 
  • YOU MAY DESTROY A LOT OF YOURSELF AND YOUR RELATIONSHIPS, and you might not even make any money doing it. You really need to think about this first. Lots of girls, FAIL. You might be one of them. Think about the risks and what you’re doing. YOU HAVE TO BE OKAY WITH RISKING IT ALL AND FAILING! 

HOW MUCH CAN I MAKE DOING THIS?

Currently I’m averaging around 4-5k a month not including gifts. But my month can get as low as 3k or as high as 7k. You can always make way more, or way less. It completely depends on you and how much work your willing to put into this. 

 Is NiteFlirt profitable when you’re first starting out?

First month I made $3643.74. So you decide what that means for you. 

How quickly did you get comfortable with the humiliation/asking for money?

Fairly quickly. Usually I ask what kind of sub they are, what they will do to amuse me. If they sound desperate enough I ask for a cum tax, and then still make them wait. You have to keep enforcing your power, you have to keep telling them who owns their dick. They have to lose control, to you and leave it with you. Even after the call is over with. 

How much are you on the phone?

Max 2-3 hours a day but I leave my phone on through out the day. I work on commissions and drawing so it’s not that big of deal to me. If you’re use to leaving the house a lot this job probably isn’t for you. You have to be kind of home body to do this. 

Hi, I’ve been interested in getting into sex work lately myself. I’m 21 but my parents still declare me on their taxes, so I was wondering how these things get declared on tax forms? Would my parents know what I’m up to?

You file as self employed or an independent contractor… and depending on how much you make…? They will probably notice depending on your relationship with them before and how much money you make.  If you were the type of person who asked them for money a lot, or if you want to start buying clothes and live in a better apartment, they might notice. Also if you live with them, they will probably hear some moaning. When I first started out all I did was vanilla calls and like every other hour it was like ‘OH STEVE, OH YOUR COCK!’ and then ‘OMG JOHN DON’T STOP LICKING MY PUSSY!’ so, yeah… It depends on your relationship, where your living, and how much your planning on making. I never really had to deal with the whole family thing, so I have no idea how to handle it honestly. 

Question about being a PSO, what times of day do you usually get calls? I work full-time so 9-5 is off limits. I’d imagine most guys would call in the evening but what about different timezones? I’m EST btw. Thanks!

It’s honestly, totally random, some days I get all my calls in the morning, other days, its all at night. And yes time zones do matter, I’m in cali so when its still night time for me, its already morning wood time in NY and I get calls then. Just advertise when you will be on to your customers, or your listing and have photos and MP3’s for them to buy when your offline. 

 

I am thinking of being a PSO, I’ve done other sex work before. I am a bit nervous, just looking for some newbie tips to ease the jitters I guess. (I am sure a lot of that goes when I gain more experience tho right?..) Do you have any good websites/blogs you could recommend for getting started? Thanks!

Just dive right in babe. That is basically what I did. Signed on, waited a day, the phone rang, went with it. You have no idea whose going to call you or what kind of call your getting. Just introduce yourself and hope for the best. You could get a vanilla call, or you could get some guy in his wife’s panties humping the car in the garage begging you to tell him he’s a bad boy and needs a spanking.  
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